Navigating the demanding nature of engineering and other academic programmes can be daunting. Psychiatrist Dr. Harish Shetty offers valuable advice on how to address various challenges faced by students and their families. Here, he provides guidance on dealing with sudden academic disinterest, coping with stress, managing destructive behavior, handling gaming addiction, and addressing conflicts with roommates.
Dealing with Sudden Sluggishness
Anonymous writes: My daughter, now doing her master’s, has suddenly lost interest in studies. She remains locked up in her room and refuses to attend college. We do not know why she has become so sluggish as her friends have confirmed that there was no bullying, abuse, or break in their friendship or in college. When she was in class VIII, she was beaten up during a school picnic over a minor scuffle. Can the past incident be the reason?
Dr. Harish Shetty responds: Get her to meet a doctor for a full body checkup. Nutritional deficiencies, menstrual irregularities, and physiological reasons can cause mood changes. Consult a psychologist, as students often do not share stress triggers with family to avoid causing worry. A psychologist may identify the trigger point and recommend appropriate treatment, including medication to help uplift her mood.
Considering Dropping Out of College
PS writes: I loved engineering subjects when I enrolled in college last year. However, in the second year, I am unable to cope with the stressful schedule and complex subjects. There are a few subjects that I have started to dread. I am planning to drop out of the course and am extremely confused.
Dr. Harish Shetty responds: Engineering is challenging, and every course has subjects requiring different aptitudes. Since you are passionate about engineering, consider getting feedback from trusted professors about your skills. Sometimes, it’s a short spell of boredom. Combined studies with friends can help. Make a mindful decision about dropping out after consulting professors, parents, and a psychologist.
Managing Destructive Streaks
MK writes: I am preparing for JEE, but have become very anxious. I have been requesting my parents for an iPhone since class X. This has angered me to an extent that I broke a windowpane yesterday, which made my parents furious. They have spent a fortune on my JEE coaching since class IX but are not ready to gift me an iPhone. I feel like destroying more items.
Dr. Harish Shetty responds: Your behavior indicates a need for attention, not just an iPhone. Life isn’t about material gains; focus on academic goals. Your actions are a way to pressure your parents. Identify your desires calmly. Psychological and blood tests can check essential nutrient levels. A psychologist can help you and your parents understand your needs and articulate genuine, reasonable requests.
Addressing Gaming Addiction
Anonymous writes: My son is addicted to a Japanese cartoon serial, which he watches for 4 to 5 hours at a stretch. He is also addicted to gaming and has become quiet and withdrawn. He refused to attend his midterm exams. He speaks in monosyllables and sleeps very little.
Dr. Harish Shetty responds: Sleeplessness and reluctance to talk may not solely indicate gaming addiction. There could be underlying issues with studies, parents, friends, or teachers. A sensitive teacher or skilled counselor can identify the root cause. Do not hastily attribute behavior changes to gaming addiction. A mindful, science-based intervention is crucial.
Handling Irked Roommates
LP writes: I am an MSc student living in the hostel. My roommates have warned me to leave the room as they think I am sensitive, get anxious, and cry often. They recently went to the warden with a request to remove me, which was turned down.
Dr. Harish Shetty responds: Roommates may feel helpless seeing someone cry often, which you may perceive as rejection. Identify triggers and inform trusted teachers or friends. You might be homesick or missing family. Screening for depression by a mental health professional is advisable.
Conclusion
Navigating academic and emotional challenges requires understanding, patience, and the right support. Dr. Harish Shetty’s advice underscores the importance of addressing underlying issues and seeking professional help when needed. Whether dealing with academic disinterest, stress, destructive behavior, gaming addiction, or roommate conflicts, a mindful and comprehensive approach is essential for students and their families.
